What Annoys Me About Social Media

Social media, like a lot of things in life, can be a blessing and a curse. I have several social media accounts (Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, and Twitter) and I have found these outlets significant in helping me keep in touch and connect with people. However, am I REALLY connecting with people?

I’m an introvert that LOVES transparency. As a result, I feel the word “connect” takes on a different connotation for me than it does for others (the same is true for the words “relationship” and “friend”). Knowing surface level facts about someone does not equal a connection (neither does proximity…you can share a space with someone and still not connect with them). With that being said, I wouldn’t say I’m connected with every person that follows or friends me on social media. I, of course, know them in some capacity, but I don’t have a deep rapport with all of them.

This is where social media can become a blessing. These outlets can allow you to share pictures and posts about your life with other people outside your core circle (aka your “tribe”). You can also search and find people you may have lost contact with due to distance, time, etc. For myself, I will say it has been easier to stay in touch with family and other people I know who live in Florida (because I am in Ohio). Since I cannot be there physically, I can experience events and milestones in their lives secondhand via social media. The same is true for others in regards to my life. I mean, I put my wedding ceremony on Facebook live! lol

Now for why I feel like social media can become a curse (and the reason for this post): most times it is not a reflection of real life. Do I think people are lying about what they’re posting? No (at least not the people I follow). What I mean is social media platforms have become a place where mainly the highlights of life are put on display. Posts about engagements, baby announcements, weddings, graduations, new jobs, new cars, new houses, and new business ventures flood our timelines. I love being able to congratulate and celebrate these moments with people, but when that’s the only thing people post it creates a false perception and expectation of reality.

Life, as I’m sure we all know, is full of peaks AND valleys. If you fall into the trap of social media, you might begin to feel like you’re the only person on the entire planet that experiences low points in life (In reality, this is a total lie. EVERYONE has low points…but not a lot of people are talking about it publicly). I’m not ashamed to say I have fallen into this trap numerous times. Here are a couple thoughts/realizations that pull me out of the trap (in case you have been there too):

1.) You don’t know what’s going on behind the closed doors of that person’s home.

2.) Everyone and everything has a season. Maybe what you’re seeing is that person’s peak season (shout out to my sister-friend, Stephanie, for the inspiration on this one!).

3.) Comparison is the thief of joy.

4.) God is STILL totally and completely, head over hills, you’re-to-die-for-and-I-did, in love with you.

As previously mentioned, I’m an introvert. For me, this means too much human interaction drains me. So when I do interact with others I would prefer not to waste time on small talk and get right to the meat of the matter. Yes, it’s one digit degrees outside…I know….but, what is the biggest challenge you’re facing in life right now? It is during these type of conversations that I get to sometimes encourage people (a gift/talent I believe God has given me) and we get to learn more about each other and make a REAL connection. There have been very few times that I’ve made connections via social media (with the exception of online dating, but that’s possibly another post lol).

All in all, I think social media is great. It just annoys me that it’s not commonly used as a place to be transparent even about the bad days. I love balance (because I can naturally lean towards being an extremist aka just plain EXTRA and DOING THE MOST in some situations lol). Highs AND lows in life is a balanced and normal concept. Not to mention, the lows make the highs so much greater. In the words of Royal Tailor’s song “Gravity”, “What’s a win without a loss?” Don’t get me wrong, winning is amazing. But a win after a loss (or multiple losses) feels even better. Without the rain who would appreciate a sunny day? Tough days, moments, and seasons are inevitable in life.

Christians, like me, especially know this. We are reminded to “consider it pure joy” WHEN we face trials of many kinds (James 1:2) and that in this world we WILL have trouble (John 16:33). One of my favorite verses is 2 Corinthians 12:9 which says, “But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weakness, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.” Being a Christian does NOT mean you will no longer have rough days. Sometimes I fear the opposite message is what’s becoming popular through prosperity gospels and others like it. If Jesus Christ, THE SON OF GOD HIMSELF, had to suffer…why, my Christian brother and sister, do you feel like you shouldn’t? (again, that’s another post lol) Christians have the knowledge of hope in suffering because we know it ultimately builds our faith and reliance in God and we have His grace to sustain us through it.

So with lows being just as significant as the highs, why do we not talk about it more? I’m not saying you have to spill all your tea on social media (Girl…go talk to a friend, pray, journal, get a therapist), but don’t be afraid to be human. #inreallife


Thank you so much for reading! Please feel free to address the questions in bold in the comments!


3 thoughts on “What Annoys Me About Social Media

  1. Agreed…and I think it is simultaneously the source of people feeling inadequate and encouraged. Inadequate, because, like you said, people are, like you said, comparing their everyday to others’ highlights and as a result end up feeling like they are behind or not doing enough. But the encouragement comes from those rare posts where people let other know that it’s okay to be in your thirties and not have a house, husband, business, or whatever goal you’re trying to hit. I love those posts, because they let everyone know that it’s okay to be where you are, to just keeping going forward.

    Wonderful post!

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  2. I feel like [most] people come to the realization that social media is mainly post about a persons highlights. I don’t think it should be expected for everyone to post about their lows at all to be honest. Kudos if you do, power to you if you don’t. I for one wouldn’t stand up in a room to my 2000 Facebook associates and talk to them about my day. Why is it expected online? I say this to say that some people chose the blogger route when it comes to social media and they write so well and they love to share a lot of things. Some people just want to post a moment from their day and that is what sharing on social media is to them. I don’t even write captions for my pictures, it’s just the way I’ve done things. I like food, I like to travel. I post about these things and that’s how I like to use social media. I believe it is our own duties to be intentional about connecting off of social media. I tell my closest friends all about my ups/downs/regular human moments but I don’t have a desire to share these things on social media. Is that ok? Bc I see so many post about comparing (which I KNOW is a problem for a lot of ppl) but I don’t think it should be expected for people to post how *you* want them to. I think everyone should post what they want even if it’s just the ups. Now on people comparing their lives and feeling empty that’s another issue that I would hope everyone resolves within themselves with time/ understanding. But like i said I don’t think we should place these expectations that people post how *you* and the other ppl I’ve seen write similar post like this want. If anything he expectation should be that social media is most likely going to be just someone’s hilight reel & that’s perfectly fine, do not compare & enjoy posting!

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